The following article targeting the youth of today on the need to think twice before taking a decision on interfaith marriage is worth a read. A simple but powerful introduction to this article by Dr Dilip Amin has been given by Dr Stephan Knapp whose contribution to creating awareness about Hinduism is unparalleled.
The complete article can be read at
Interfaith Marriages: What Young Dharmists Should Know
Introduction by Stephen Knapp.
I want to thank Dr. Dilip Amin for putting this thoughtful information together. Interfaith marriages are becoming an increasingly important topic among Dharmic parents. Personally, when it comes to interfaith marriages, I have seen only a few of them really work out. When a Hindu marries someone of another religion, often the spouse who is Muslim or Christian expects the Hindu to immediately or eventually convert. This may be due to a number of factors that are not always obvious at the beginning of the marriage, such a family pressure, or the birth of children, etc. This is especially the case when a Hindu girl marries an Abrahamic spouse. Even if the spouse does not expect conversion, then at least the children are expected to be raised to become Christians or Muslims. Rarely is this otherwise. Even if the children are exposed to both religions and left to make their own decisions about which religion to follow, it is generally found that within one, two, or at most three generations, that family is no longer connected to the Vedic tradition.
However, I have seen marriages work out nicely when, for example, a converted western Hindu male or Dharmist marries an Indian Hindu female, or vice versa, and plan to raise their children in the Vedic tradition. Or even when two converted Hindus marry each other. But when a Dharmic follower marries a person of the Abrahamic faith, the future can be turbulent with unexpected consequences and problems, especially when children are born. Therefore, I do not advise anyone who wants to make sure their family continues in the Dharmic tradition to enter into an interfaith marriage. You simply cannot be sure of what is going to happen, and much heartbreak and turmoil can result. The following two articles below by Dr. Dilip Amin will make this clearer.
Interfaith Marriages:
What Young Dharmists Should Know
By Dr. Dilip Amin, Ph. D.
Some sample FAQs from this 2-part article.
Is religious conversion for marriage wrong?
Not if it is discussed early on in the relationship and agreed to by both parties, without coercion. Some conservative Islamic and Christian families still believe in the superiority of their faiths, thus forcing the spouse of any other faith to convert to their faith before an Islamic Nikaah or a church wedding can take place. Such expectations should be discussed upfront before getting deep into a relationship. To ask an intended spouse to give up his or her religion just before the wedding IS UNETHICAL. In such cases, the coerced spouse feels cheated at a time when they expected to experience some of the sweetest memories of their life. It harbors a doubt in their heart if a spouse deceptively practiced proselytism under the guise of love.
What is wrong if one converts to a new faith just for marriage, as far as allowed to practice his/her own faith after the marriage?
Be careful– Religious conversion is not a hollow ritual devoid of any meaning or consequences. Let's take a Christian-Muslim marriage as an example. As per the Sahadah oath to convert to Islam for Nikaah, you accept and declare that there is no God but Allah and Muhammad is his apostle. Further, you acknowledge that associating others (like Jesus) with Allah is the greatest of all sins. Similarly, baptism before a church wedding means conversion to Christianity and a commitment to repudiate former practices (of Islam) and to live with Christ forever. You must ask yourself what is your intention?
My spouse is open-minded and we could get around these religious expectations.
Remember, a marriage is not just the union of two individuals but, believe it not, a union of two families and two communities. It is ethical to be upfront and honest about your intentions with your new family rather than building life-long relationships on deception and lies.
Conversion is only a formality, why not do it just to please my spouse and his/her family?
The religious conversion is not a one time deal; you are setting a new tone for your life. If you feed a shark, it will come back again for more food. Similarly, religious conversion for marriage will be followed by the expectation of a declaration of faith for your children via baptism, bris or sunat. Later, you may be forbidden to practice your own religion so children would not learn and follow it. Also, your spouse or his/her family may not like to be part of a religious activity while at your parent's home. When your fantasy love period ends and it transforms into a routine married life, then these issues may become sore points in your life.
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Open Forum Hindu Muslim marriages: NO! Hindu-Muslim marriages are extremely offensive for the reason that the Muslim groom imagines himself to be a "conqueror" of one of the kafirs in the way of his ongoing personal jehad against kufr. Thus these marriages are, therefore, a provocation to all the Kafirs (HIndus, Sikhs, Buddhists, Christians, Jews and so on) on earth. NB: Hindus are described as kafirs in Koran which is word of God for the Muslims. Collectively, the Muslims are committed to degrade, subdue, subjugate, enslave, convert, even kill, a kafir (non Muslim) who refuses to convert. millions of Hindus paid with their lives, often in the most brutal manner like Guru Tegh Bahadur, the two little sons of Guru Gobind Singhji and the brave boy Hakikat Rai. Hindus escaping from Pakistan and Bangladesh know this at their cost.
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9 comments:
i am sorry but such thoughts are really sick...how can u say something about any religion ..don't you think so, that while saying all this what impact you are giving on the society about your religion.
you are a doctor..shame on you of being a doctor actually of being a human.i am a hindu.
Dear Madam,
We should face the facts than feeling shameful as Rohini says.
Younger generation should know the problems related to such marriages. I have heard many marriages were things start very smooth, secular and ends with a result of coercion on generation next away from sanatana dharma!
Can you explain astrologically who are vulnerable for such events and any general remedies?
Sheela
@ Sheela,
I don't have many horoscopes on converted people / and inter religious converts. I am collecting them.
We have to see 9th house, Jupiter and Rahu's affliction to the 9th, besides affliction to 7th house which we see for unconventional marriages. In the 7th house analysis by Dr BV Raman in his book on how to judge a horoscope, we find some inputs in this regard.
In practice the love marriages done without family consent also show similar trends. But one thing I would say for sure. When the Hindu habits are given up as a result of inter religious or inter caste marriages, the 9th house affliction starts showing up from the 3rd generation onwards.
I am a muslim and i love a hindu girl.... I have seen in my family no girl is kept under jaili environment... Every one has there own rights even girls. Wat all you said abt muslim is all wrong to the current generation first understand religion properly then write. In kuran saying a hindu as kafir is also a sin. We are taught to follow our religion and respects other religion. So dont fool people......
@Naved We all know how tolerant your community is and how it is allowing you to treat the so called non believers. This love is used as a weapon to victimize Hindus. Missionaries too indulge in this.
That said, this Blog Author is writing to educate Hindus as she is concerned about our Dharma and belief. If you want to register your views, you can do that but please refrain from using adjectives. There is a way to register your disagreement and a protocol to write and talk in forums. This itself shows your intolerance.
I strongly condemn your usage of the words like "fooling people" as we blog followers have tremendous respect for the author and we say we are hurt.
It is a post which should be an eye opener for many. Garuda Purana says why the offspring of the inter caste and inter religious married people cannot do the karma for their parents. I wish Hindu people read that. Guys and Girls, in youth are blinded by the senses. Only the strong belief and education in Dharmic values could help them understand the seriousness of this issue.
Dear Naved,
Usually they say that love is blind. But from your comment, I can see that you have your eyes closed to the reality. Posted below is the response from a scholar who specializes in inter religious studies particularly Islamic studies. It is in the best of interests of yourself and that girl, you leave her.
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" First of all, a small account of Indian Media, like NDTV etc.
Then give the description of what happed in Mangalore in case of enticing Hindu Girls by Muslim Youths with Taqquiah – Islamic Holy deception.
Then, thereafter the contents of Trilogy, (Quran, Hadiths and Sira) of Islam with important Quotes from their own Books in a nutshell.
There is no need to scandalize Islam and their so-called Holy Books (really unholy books contents) are enough to do this job for non-muslims. So long these were kept within Islamic Mosques and Mehrib prayer meetings. But thanks to internet, the Details of Islamic books are available from the most Orthodox websites. Non-Muslims are more well-versed that Mr. Naved, this Islamic Youth.
Media First:
We have a media, which is totally foreign owned, like Islamic, Christian owner, giving news against the interest of majority in India.
Do your remember Godhra ? Hindu Karsevaks were returning from Ram Temple and singing Bhajan. The whole compartment was put into flames by Islamists? Still Islamists call Islam as a ‘Religion of Peace’ There are 164 Suras in Koran about Jihad. But Media preached along with Islamists, that the travelers just torched themselves, by locking themselves insides the compartment. Is it not atrocious?
Mangalore Next
In Mangalore, the Hindu girls were enticed into a “pub” and the girls were periodically transported to Kerala, from and with the instructions of Mullahs to do so.
These girls were made to take drugs, in the pub by the Muslim youths, for doing to in spoiling Hindu girls, the Mullahs heavily finance the youths.
These girls were confined in “”Jaili environment”” till they are married to any available Muslims. If they refuse they were gang raped and made to submit to convert to Islam.
We have a press to publish this immediately. Many of them are sold to Arab country Bhuddas (old people)
If this not "Jaili environment", surrounded by Muslim hooligans, then what is it? Mr Naved do you need any other proof.
How do these Mullahs and Muslim youths to keep quiet by Mang aloreans. They exposed Taqquiah, Islamic deception immediately.
This should be an eye opener for many Hindu girls, their parents and Hindu youths to be vigilant always."
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An advice to Hindu girls
You should be very fortunate to be born as a Hindu girl. Don’t get carried away by Shah Rukh Khans, Salman Khan and Saif Khan etc., and their ilk. Don’t get infatuated by their enticing Taqquiah words. If you trust them, then you may have to wear the Hijab (eyes visible) Niqab, Nijab (seeing through net in the Black rob) through out your life! You become a right hand owned property to be abused at ill by Muslims, like land, cattles. You can no longer celebrate like Hindu festivels. In Islam laughing is Haram (not accepted by Islam) like playing chess, Music, etc.,
Here under are given a very very few Quotes from Islamic Books. Islamic principles in Nutshell:
Women: Quranic Evidence: read these very few passages:-
Sura (2:223) - "Your wives are as a tilth unto you; so approach your tilth when or how ye will." Wives are to be sexually available to their husbands in all ways at all times. They serve their husbands at his command. 2:228; 2:282; 4:11; 4: 33; 4:34; 4:176 Bukhari (88:219); Bukhari (48:826); Tabari IX:113; Abu Dawud (2:704) - "...the Apostle of Allah said: When one of you prays without a sutrah, a dog, an ass, a pig, a Jew, and a woman cut off his prayer, but it will suffice if they pass in front of him at a distance of over a stone's throw.";
Talaq (divorce) just like that: Muslim (9:3493) - This is one of several hadith in which it is clear that Muhammad practiced the triple talaq and approved of his followers doing the same.
Polygamy in Islam: Muslims can have 4 wives at a time. Quran (4:3) ; (4:129); Bukhari (5:268); Bukhari (62:6);
Temporary marriage for a night: Muta for Shias or Misyar for Sunnis (Temporary) marriage allowed:
Wife beating in Islam: Qur'an (38:44) - "And take in your hand a green branch and beat her with it, and do not break your oath..." Allah telling Job to beat his wife. Muslim (4:2127);
(Women’s Inheritance) - Qur'an (4:11) - "The male shall have the equal of the portion of two females" (see also verse 4:176).
Court testimony: Qur'an (2:282);
Taqquiah: Islamic deception: (Cheating or telling lies for the sake of Islam - Holy deception: Al-Bukhari – 52-271; Qur’an 2:225 and 40:28)
Kafirs: Quran (2:191-193) - "And slay them wherever ye find them, and drive them out of the places whence they drove you out, for persecution [of Muslims] is worse than slaughter [of non-believers]...and fight them until persecution is no more, and religion is for Allah."
Hope this is enough to silence Islamic Youths and especially Naved here! From the Questions Naved had asked, he must be a hardcore fanatic or an ignorant Muslim about their own Islamic Cult (never a religion)"
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